How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed or Desperate.
The key problem in many long-term relationships, is the loss of one's own voice. Despite decades of good advice about communicating with clarity, timing and tact, women and men find that their biggest complaints in marriage and other intimate relationships are that they are not being heard, that they cannot affect the other person, that fights go nowhere, that conflict brings only pain. Although these relationships offer the greatest possibilities for knowing the other person and being known, they are also fertile ground for frustration when it comes to articulating a true self.
The book discusses:
- What is the "two step" that will transform any conversation?
- How do we find our voice when we are rejected or cut off? And why won't the person who has harmed us apologise?
- How do we take a conversation to the next level when we feel desperate?
- What positive steps can we take when the other person is wearing us down with criticism, negativity, excuses, demands or irresponsible behaviour?
- How do we put an insensitive parent on the hot seat?
Lerner uses tales from her personal life and clinical work, inspiring and teaching readers to speak their own truths to the most important people in their lives. She teaches us how to navigate our most difficult relationships with integrity, courage and joyous conviction.
- Publication Date:
- 01 / 09 / 2001
- 152 x 231mm